Thursday, September 2, 2010

When You Squeeze from the Middle

I try. I really do. Most of the time I succeed. Then the toothbrush, in a hurry, the paste, my nature surfaces and I squeeze from the middle.

Thirteen years and I still sometimes slip as my finger slides towards the lumpy easy to squeeze section in the middle. I learned as a just married how my husband loves to roll the tube, logically, precisely, squeezing every molecule of toothpaste from the end, squeezing in a methodical dance with toothpaste to the tip. Loving him, I learned to keep our toothpaste tube happy in the cabinet.

Toothpaste love squeezed in one word; honor. Eyes wide exclaiming "This incredible man chooses me every day. He's my husband. He comes home to my house. Pinch me please." I've heard it explained like a violin. A stratoverius, ridiculously expensive instrument that brings gasps when your fingers touch it. Write this across his forehead, he is priceless. To treat him as such, to honor my husband.

When honor abounds, you smile and remember to squeeze in the right place. And then you do a little happy dance.

Anyone have any ideas to share with me? Creative, original, tried and true ways to show the love of my life honor in our home. I would cherish your suggestions and tuck them into my marriage.

16 comments:

Mom to 9 Blessings! said...

Simply love on him like you did when you were falling in love...do it over and over again! Show him in little ways how much you respect him. Tell him how proud you are to be his wife and show him by honoring him with your words, actions and support in all of God's tremendous calling upon him as leader of your home.

How do we do that right? Simply once again - God's grace - His unfailing love working in us and through us. His deep unending love filling us to overflowing that pours over our home and husbands! We wash them in prayer and let them know our children are covering them as well.

Speak kind words about him only and make sure he sometimes hears them being said!

Love you!
Jill

Kristine Corpus said...

For me it is screwing the cap all the way on things. I have a tendency to leave the cap loose, but this really bothers my special husband. I try. I make a conscious effort to tighten it...especially on the toothpaste! Of course, there are other ways, but this came to mind with your example.

Lauren said...

My husband is the SAME WAY about the toothpaste. He even bought that extra special contraption that you put the toothpaste in and it keeps it rolling from the bottom...it has conveniently gone missing. :) Maybe one day I will learn but for now I am still stuck in my old grab and squeeze ways.

jessica ann said...

aww. your words here were just too sweet.

Rachel said...

A very beautiful post regarding honoring our husbands. So often it is the little things that mean the most.

God's blessings on your night.

Rachel

J+M+S said...

My husband likes it when I try to remember the things such as the toothpaste (we each have our own:)But he also like it when I forget...he loves the quirks in me so he says.
He enjoys it when I leave him unexpected notes, such as...when he gets a new book I write a love note and put it in the middle, in a pocket, lunch, cd case or such for him to find later. Sometimes it is so much later that I totally forgot about it, he loves it!
Hmmm...also when I make food I think is gross that he just loves.

Amber said...

My middle squeezing habits drive my husband crazy, but I still haven't fully kicked the habit

Stuff could always be worse said...

Oh such a good sensible post about the everyday part of marriage! Yes I have made some changes like that. Cannot remember all of them.
kim

Amy Murphy said...

My husband and I use separate tubes, because he loves to squeeze from the middle, and that makes me rather anxious! Plus, I like paste and he likes gel. So, 2 tubes.
This was a good post for me today since I was a little perturbed w/ him after going golfing even though I had to go into the office. That meant that I either find a sitter or take little boy with me (because of a mix-up w/ our prearranged sitter.) Luckily, his sister graciously watched little boy for me! So glad she is near!

Sandra Heska King said...

Wading deep in this new pool. Looks like there is some deep splashin' happenin'.

I'm a toothpaste squisher, I fear. And I toss too early. Lucky for us, we have two bathrooms, two tubes. I'm Colgate. He's Crest.

You want to honor your sweet husband? Show him this blog post. :D

Beautiful family!

The Klippensteins said...

I to squeeze from the middle and it used to (probably still does) drive him crazy. LOL

You know Dean and his stomach. I cook for him and he absolutely loves it, and I love him...
Wendy

Denise said...

Love him, and enjoy snuggle time whenever you can.

richies said...

We solved the toothpaste dilemma at our house by using different kinds of toothpaste. When I have my own tube I can squeeze it however I want.

An Arkies Musings

Lisa said...

I saw your comment on my mom's blog and clicked on your name. Lo and behold I come to your toothpaste post and think to myself over this Labor day weekend while my hubby is visiting his family in KC, how I often, just for him, make the bed, put away my clothes, load my dirty dishes into the washer and now that he is gone I can relax and not do any of it since sloppy is my "home". But really...tomorrow I will do the happy dance cleaning it all up in anticipation of his return and as fun as it is when he is gone it always feels better when he is back and everything is clean!

Leslie said...

Oh, Sara, that makes me laugh! I too, had to change my toothpaste ways - including squeezing from the bottom and remembering to screw the cap back on! haha! I also learned how to fold his shirts just the way he likes and be on time for things when I tended to be tardy. He on the other hand has learned how to make the coffee and make sure I have a cup in my hand first thing when I wake up. It just touches my heart. I love the give and take in marriage - that's what it's all about. And it's true - we're still learning those special ways to prefer and honor each other. Great post!

Dena Dyer said...

Sara, you have a beautiful blog and I'm really glad you found HCB! One thing I've learned to do in our 15 years of marriage (almost typed 115 years, and some days it seems that long, LOL!) is to never talk Carey down with my friends. It's a simple thing, but I think we wives can get really "harpy" about stuff when we're with girlfriends. I try to honor Carey with my words and not focus on his faults. :) I look forward to getting to know you better through HCB, Sara. Thanks for joining!